Seek sexual fulfilment

Sex is an enjoyable way to improve your self-esteem. Simply having a partner consider your needs important can remind you what a worthwhile, special, lovable person you are. But if you don't have much confidence, you'll probably find it difficult to ensure your sexual needs are being met.

Take a sensual trip around your own body. Start with a place that feels attractive, such as your neck or your arms. Close your eyes an touch it, noticing the differences between muscle, bone and fat. Try various movements, scratch, tickle. Concentrate on letting go of criticism and allow your body to give and receive affection."

Schedule love-making into your life, just like you would an important meeting. Tell your partner what feels good. A non-confrontational way to suggest a change in the routine is to provided your partner an alternative, such as "Instead of kissing my neck I'd like you to whisper loving words."
Ask your partner to bring yo to orgasm if he climaxes before you do.

Spice up!

If you think your man doesn't understand you, you're probably right. When it comes to relationships, men have vastly different needs from women, so different, they even speak in their own language. Relationship experts Dr Jonathan Kramer and Diane Dunaway, in their book "Why Men Can't Get Enough Sex" and "Why Women Can't Get Enough Love", reveal what women really want and what men really mean. And they set out their 10 point plan for couples keen to rekindle their love lie.

Men learn the secrets women want them to know like why helping with the house work can lead to more sex. And women learn how to decipher 'malespeak' and how to get your man to share his feelings. It's wonder many couples argue about sex. Men think about sex an average of six times an hour that's 750 times a week, not counting dreams. Yet the average married couples have sex just 1.5 times a week.

No less than 64% of women say they are dissatisfied with the amount of love they receive. And an astonishing 98% want to make basic changes. The problem is men want more sex, women want more love.

The first step to spicing up you love life is to look at what men and women want from a relationship, coming up in next post.

Afterplay

After-play is what turns a good sexual encounter into one neither for you will ever forget. So don't sell yourselves shot, guys. Don't roll over, fall asleep or race for a shower, a snack or a taxi. Don't cheat yourselves out of this gentle pleasure. Say something nice to her, listen to her say something nice to you. Stroke her, hold her, flatter her.

Why not? Even climaxing together isn't as personal and intimate and human as sharing each other's feeling after desire has been spent. Hardly any woman takes sex lightly. Even promiscuous girls, especially them are hoping with all their hearts for love. They are investing a wealth of dreams and fantasies in sex with you. Of course, not every encounter ca be the start of something big who knows that better than you, gentlemen?

No matter how brief, how unplanned, how ill-advised or even illicit, every time you make love you are involving another human being with a full set of emotions and insecurities, one who is worthy of respect. To lead her on with false promises is beneath contempt. If you consider yourself more than just another greedy slob and if you deserve the tile of lover, then do make that telephone call she is certainly waiting for tech next day, send her flowers or at the very least write her a toe to tell her she's terrific and you'll never forget her. Because when the love making is all over, it's up to you to make sure she can look back on your time together with pride and that you can too.

Good Marriage

According to experts, there are things that a wife should never say to her husband or a husband to his wife. Continue from my last post, here are the remaining 5 things that shouldn't be said to your mate.

You don't really love me, "No man enjoys being nagged into reassurances of his love, and most resent repeated demands to prove their feelings"

I think he's really attracted to me. "You can never be sure how a man will react when his jealousy is aroused. Some men might retaliate with flirtations of their own."

You were much better looking when... "Men are as sensitive as women about their appearances and most don't want to be compared unfavorably with anyone - not even their former selves."

Promise you won't tell a should. "If you pass along details of a friend's private life, your mate may suspect that you've traded secrets of your own for those details and that might jeopardize his trust."

I don't know what to do - tell me. "This sets him up for blame if things go wrong. Make decisions and take responsibility for them."

What men still don't know about SEX! -Part 1

When it comes to sex, men are definitely improving. After all, in grandpa's day, the average man never dreamed a woman could enjoy making love and the average woman never dreamed she should.

Today, of course, both sexes do, because pleasure shared is pleasure doubled and it's still further increased for the modern man who knows he's giving as good as he's getting. All a man needs to become a superb lover is some technique, a little knowledge, a bit of imagination and a lot of tender willingness. Most important, the good lover knows there is always more to learn and the great lover is the man who enjoys the lessons!

There is more potential for playfulness in sex than in any other adult activity. But sex is not a competitive sport. Men who run out of their corners at the sound of the bell, flailing and panting as though they have a title to defend are not the lovers women find irresistible.

So keep athleticism in the gym, guys. If you think she's going to be wildly turned on by being twisted into contortions, then you certainly have the wrong idea about inventive lovemaking. You are not the only ones, gentlemen, to fantasies during sex, even when it's with someone you're crazy about. And if your relationship mellows, you may find it exciting to tell each other your fantasies though not necessarily to act them out.

to be continue........

Sexy check-up!

Wouldn't you like to know if he's a red-hot lover in bed? And whether you have a high sex drive too? Find out by studying facial features and body parts.

People looking for the perfect partner have a whole body of evidence to consider. Experts say physical characteristics such as the size and shape of hands, feet and head reveal a person's sexual prowess and personality.

Men with big feet are well endowed, large teeth are a sign of vanity,snub noses belong to romantics and those with ring fingers much lo9nger than their index fingers have huge sex drives.

Men whose hands were identical had higher than average sperm co9unts, according to a report in New Scientist magazine. But it was very low in men with one hand at least 4mm longer than the other. Women with a large difference in size between index and ring fingers are more fertile.

Is he treating you more than just friends?

Here are signs that you should look out for:

He buys you excessively expensive or personal presents like jewelery or lingerie.

Every time you ask after his wife or kids, he changes the subject or just ignores the query.

He gives you compliments that are excessively persona and make you uncomfortable.

He touches you in a way you don't expect your normal guy friends to touch you. There is a world of difference between a big, warm hug and a seductive, lingering hand on your thigh.

He constantly calls you or wants to spend time with you.

He suggests you meet out all the time and doesn't include his wife or your boyfriend on any of these dates.

He doesn't tell his wife that he is meeting up with you.

He calls you and talks to you on the phone till midnight.

He gives you flowers and have meals with you after work.

He is very concern and helpful in your personal problem.

He tries to meet up with you as often as a normal guy friends would.

The Chemistry of Sex and Love

The Chemistry of love and sex or sex and love ,is a very old subject. Which one come first huh? Love or sex first Huh? I think in today's modern age, everything must test drive first loh! Well, we have to be open minded and moved with the age as well.

In the Tao of Love, there is a detail study of love and sex in the Red Chamber in ancient China. The Emperor has hundreds of concubines and he also has two special sexologists to advise him. The female sexologist will advise him on the ways and the techniques of sex and love. The male sexologist will advise him on his chi energy during sexual intercourse and how to conserve his chi energy to reserve it for the other waiting concubines. Both sexologists are knowledgeable in the ways of replenishing the sex chi energy. The methods ranged from the invisible to the physical herbal potions and aphrodiasics.

Even in Napoleon Hill's famous book (Think and Grow Rich), there is a section on the power of sex and love. The right use of sex and love will make a genius out of both man and woman. Somehow the aura of the combined energies of both male and female can be channeled into useful creations, provided you know how. In most cases, the potent energy of the male is expended carelessly and in an exhaustive way, draining the potential creative chi energy of the male in an unproductive way. This is because the male has not learn to tame the chi energy at its sexual height.

The modern sexologists are more concerned with erectile dysfunction than about the sexual energy. We will share some of this in the next post.