Afterplay

After-play is what turns a good sexual encounter into one neither for you will ever forget. So don't sell yourselves shot, guys. Don't roll over, fall asleep or race for a shower, a snack or a taxi. Don't cheat yourselves out of this gentle pleasure. Say something nice to her, listen to her say something nice to you. Stroke her, hold her, flatter her.

Why not? Even climaxing together isn't as personal and intimate and human as sharing each other's feeling after desire has been spent. Hardly any woman takes sex lightly. Even promiscuous girls, especially them are hoping with all their hearts for love. They are investing a wealth of dreams and fantasies in sex with you. Of course, not every encounter ca be the start of something big who knows that better than you, gentlemen?

No matter how brief, how unplanned, how ill-advised or even illicit, every time you make love you are involving another human being with a full set of emotions and insecurities, one who is worthy of respect. To lead her on with false promises is beneath contempt. If you consider yourself more than just another greedy slob and if you deserve the tile of lover, then do make that telephone call she is certainly waiting for tech next day, send her flowers or at the very least write her a toe to tell her she's terrific and you'll never forget her. Because when the love making is all over, it's up to you to make sure she can look back on your time together with pride and that you can too.

Good Marriage

According to experts, there are things that a wife should never say to her husband or a husband to his wife. Continue from my last post, here are the remaining 5 things that shouldn't be said to your mate.

You don't really love me, "No man enjoys being nagged into reassurances of his love, and most resent repeated demands to prove their feelings"

I think he's really attracted to me. "You can never be sure how a man will react when his jealousy is aroused. Some men might retaliate with flirtations of their own."

You were much better looking when... "Men are as sensitive as women about their appearances and most don't want to be compared unfavorably with anyone - not even their former selves."

Promise you won't tell a should. "If you pass along details of a friend's private life, your mate may suspect that you've traded secrets of your own for those details and that might jeopardize his trust."

I don't know what to do - tell me. "This sets him up for blame if things go wrong. Make decisions and take responsibility for them."

Taboo topics to avoid

According to psychologist Dr Michael Lillibridge, author of The Love Book For Couples here are the first 5 of 10 things a wife should never say to her husband:

I told you so. "It damages a man's self-esteem to imply that you are smarter. Men don't like to have their intelligence attacked by wives."

You'll never guess what your mother/father told me. "He will resent you being privy to family matters not revealed to him."

You have no feelings. " Men have been conditioned to remain cool and rational, but they have the same feelings as yo have and will be hurt if you say they don't."

Boy, am I an idiot! "It's terribly burdensome for a man constantly to hear about the things you've done wrong. Your urge to confess as a way of seeking sympathy when you've goofed is likely to backfire."

You're no good. "If you';re angry, tackle the issue without resorting to put-downs."

Key to a good marriage

Communications may be the key to a good marriage but there are some things you simply shouldn't say to your mate, if you want to preserve the relationship. And they're not world-shattering things, either. Just little slips of the tongue such as "You 're just like your mother (or father),' or 'You've changed since you were younger...' can do much more harm than you might imagine.

That's the view of a number of psychologists and marriage therapists who drew up a Ten Commandments-style list of things that are best left unsaid if you want to stay happy.

Coming up next.......

Why women fake orgasm?

Men are reputed to have logical brains, right? So obviously you've already noticed that these statistics indicate two things about female sexuality.
1. Whoever she is, she must have faked it on occasion.
2. This indicates that perhaps orgasms don't play quite the same urgent role in her sex life as they do in yours.

If you saw 'When Harry met Sally', you know how brilliantly a woman can fake an orgasm. But more important than how she fakes it is why she fakes it. Well, first of all, there's a genuine kind of release indicating out a climax, similar to the way you can get a charge out of watching your team score a point without racing out onto the field and scoring one yourself. Also, she knows that for you a sex act is incomplete unless it leads to an orgasm, and if she fails to have one, you may think you've failed to give it to her. In other words, she fakes to spare your feelings.

Yes, it has been known for her to fake an orgasm because she's dead tired and knows you won't give up until you think she's had one. Or maybe she feels somehow ashamed of her inability to have one genuinely. Finally, she may pretend because she's afraid that if she doesn't make yo think you're the greatest, you'll leave and find some other girl who does.

What men still don't know about SEX! -Part 2

There is an argument, however, that to do this risks stripping them of their magic. As a general rule, men find depictions of sexual acts arousing and women get off on words. So when you two get to that lovely point of trust where fantasies can be exchanged remember that a few spicy suggestions whispered into her ear will add to her excitement.

You're also not the only ones to masturbate. most women do it, even when their sex lives are going great. women tend to masturbate to scenarios of their own invention, while you guys prefer to use something material, generally porn videos or magazines. but unless your partner likes porn too, and can share it with you, be careful about keeping it around. Chances are, if she comes across it in your closet or under the bed, she will feel extremely threatened and take it as evidence that she's not enough for you. After all, when she masturbates especially if yours is a passionate, new relationship - the image she probably has in mind is of you.

Also, there's always the likelihood that she is insecure about her desirability and obsessed by what she imagines to be her physical defects- those little blemished and imperfection so that are simply airbrushed out in your videos and magazines. And finally, whenever she thinks, she may not emotionally accept the ability you men have to separate sex from romantic love in a manner not many women share.

What men still don't know about SEX! -Part 1

When it comes to sex, men are definitely improving. After all, in grandpa's day, the average man never dreamed a woman could enjoy making love and the average woman never dreamed she should.

Today, of course, both sexes do, because pleasure shared is pleasure doubled and it's still further increased for the modern man who knows he's giving as good as he's getting. All a man needs to become a superb lover is some technique, a little knowledge, a bit of imagination and a lot of tender willingness. Most important, the good lover knows there is always more to learn and the great lover is the man who enjoys the lessons!

There is more potential for playfulness in sex than in any other adult activity. But sex is not a competitive sport. Men who run out of their corners at the sound of the bell, flailing and panting as though they have a title to defend are not the lovers women find irresistible.

So keep athleticism in the gym, guys. If you think she's going to be wildly turned on by being twisted into contortions, then you certainly have the wrong idea about inventive lovemaking. You are not the only ones, gentlemen, to fantasies during sex, even when it's with someone you're crazy about. And if your relationship mellows, you may find it exciting to tell each other your fantasies though not necessarily to act them out.

to be continue........

How to keep your man?

Recently, a local newspaper came out with the headline which read like this, 'Association of women formed to take action against mistresses'. A catchy heading. But as you read on, it is about a group of women complaining to the politician to do something about the women in China who lured their husbands away and causing them to have broken families. An impossible task, I would say. Let us be realistic.

First, the women who lured the husbands are in a foreign country, which has their own set of laws regarding marriages. Secondly, having mistresses is not a crime, neither is it wrong in most countrie's cultures. Also, it is difficult to prove that it is the fault of the other women. So there you are, you don't have a strong case to go on here.

A bit of emotional intelligence would perhaps give you a better edge here. Put yourself in the shoes of the other women. What did they do to attract your husband? Figure, dress, grooming and conversations and of course sex. Now, go through this items one at a time. Figure wise, are you slim, attractive? If you are not, do something about it. There are so many slimming centres around. Why not lavish yourself, on your hubby expenses of course, on these slimming centres. Get your self into shape in a month's time and motivate yourself to get result. Next, get some good grooming from the cosmetic counters. Do a makeover. Learn the skills and tricks of a good makeover. Get a new hairstyle but do one that is befitting your age.

Get some new dresses, classy and sexy. And some high heel shoes to go with it. Have a photo shoot out in a professional studio of the new you.

Next, get into internet and be internet savvy. Get to know some new friends, guys but guard your security.

Now you are ready to start on your hubby. Sent him your new look. Set up a dinner just between you and him. Prepared your topics well but not confronting and plan for a welcome back. Two can play the game of seduction from both sides. If you are all these, even if he choose the other woman, I think you still have a good chance with others as well, I mean to start all over again rather than fighting a hopeless fight. And your husband do not like competition, especially if you are beautiful, sexy and classy and very desirable not only to him but to other men.

I think this action is a better solution to the formation of an association of women against mistresses. The above actions make sense, within your control and achievable and it gives you confidence about yourself.

Think back to the first time when your husband courted you. What really attracted him then? Recreate back those features in you. The mistakes with most mothers is that they forgot to take care of their figure, their skin, their hairdo and romantic plans. Men are men and are attracted to this even when they are fathers or grandfathers as a matter of speaking.

So do those things mothers and don't give all your time to your children. You need to give yourself and your husband some time together in order to keep your man to yourself. If your man is happy, you are happy. When both of you are happy, your family is happy. So the end result is, Happy Family.