Seek sexual fulfilment

Sex is an enjoyable way to improve your self-esteem. Simply having a partner consider your needs important can remind you what a worthwhile, special, lovable person you are. But if you don't have much confidence, you'll probably find it difficult to ensure your sexual needs are being met.

Take a sensual trip around your own body. Start with a place that feels attractive, such as your neck or your arms. Close your eyes an touch it, noticing the differences between muscle, bone and fat. Try various movements, scratch, tickle. Concentrate on letting go of criticism and allow your body to give and receive affection."

Schedule love-making into your life, just like you would an important meeting. Tell your partner what feels good. A non-confrontational way to suggest a change in the routine is to provided your partner an alternative, such as "Instead of kissing my neck I'd like you to whisper loving words."
Ask your partner to bring yo to orgasm if he climaxes before you do.

10 Reasons Why Is SEX SO Important To MEN?

Why were people not surprised when sex experts Masters and Johnson concluded (through their extensive research) that sex is an important element in a man's life.

1. For most men, sex gives them the ability to dominate their woman, to bring out the animalistic instinct in them
2. Men are in constant search of feminine affection and only sex can offer this.
3. Sex is the greatest equalizer to reaffirm a man's soft side and for this reason alone, most men cannot and will not do without sex.
4. It's extremely natural urge. It's a necessity to survive.
5. From a physical point of view, the rush that comes with an orgasm is incomparable. It's like sex to drugs. Once you've had it, it's very difficult not to want more.
6. It's a way of expressing their love to their partner. (But it does not include those who partake in wham-bang-thank you, ma'am sessions.
7. Is an essential stress buster. It's the best relaxant on earth.
8. It helps boost their ego.
9. Sex is one outlet for men to get their way. Men are basically very selfish beings and nine out of 10 men will want and get their way in bed.
10. Basically, its an instrument of power and virility and any man will hold on to that for dear life.
Do you agree??

What men and women want from a relationship?

A woman wants a deep relationship with a man who understands and accepts her and her feelings. She wants more intimacy, affection, commitment, companionship and respect. She wants help in resolving relationship conflicts. She want him to express his feelings particularly about her more often. She wants her man to be romantic. And she want good, satisfying lovemaking. That means sex within a loving, committed and intimate relationship with a strong, yet sensitive man.

A man wants to love and to be love but in different ways form women. Men are most comfortable expressing love through sex, through shared activities, through being a provider and through just being together. They want women to accept these actions as love. A man feels frustrated when a woman doesn't perceive his version of love as 'real love' or 'good enough', when she puts romance ahead of sex.

Spice up!

If you think your man doesn't understand you, you're probably right. When it comes to relationships, men have vastly different needs from women, so different, they even speak in their own language. Relationship experts Dr Jonathan Kramer and Diane Dunaway, in their book "Why Men Can't Get Enough Sex" and "Why Women Can't Get Enough Love", reveal what women really want and what men really mean. And they set out their 10 point plan for couples keen to rekindle their love lie.

Men learn the secrets women want them to know like why helping with the house work can lead to more sex. And women learn how to decipher 'malespeak' and how to get your man to share his feelings. It's wonder many couples argue about sex. Men think about sex an average of six times an hour that's 750 times a week, not counting dreams. Yet the average married couples have sex just 1.5 times a week.

No less than 64% of women say they are dissatisfied with the amount of love they receive. And an astonishing 98% want to make basic changes. The problem is men want more sex, women want more love.

The first step to spicing up you love life is to look at what men and women want from a relationship, coming up in next post.

Afterplay

After-play is what turns a good sexual encounter into one neither for you will ever forget. So don't sell yourselves shot, guys. Don't roll over, fall asleep or race for a shower, a snack or a taxi. Don't cheat yourselves out of this gentle pleasure. Say something nice to her, listen to her say something nice to you. Stroke her, hold her, flatter her.

Why not? Even climaxing together isn't as personal and intimate and human as sharing each other's feeling after desire has been spent. Hardly any woman takes sex lightly. Even promiscuous girls, especially them are hoping with all their hearts for love. They are investing a wealth of dreams and fantasies in sex with you. Of course, not every encounter ca be the start of something big who knows that better than you, gentlemen?

No matter how brief, how unplanned, how ill-advised or even illicit, every time you make love you are involving another human being with a full set of emotions and insecurities, one who is worthy of respect. To lead her on with false promises is beneath contempt. If you consider yourself more than just another greedy slob and if you deserve the tile of lover, then do make that telephone call she is certainly waiting for tech next day, send her flowers or at the very least write her a toe to tell her she's terrific and you'll never forget her. Because when the love making is all over, it's up to you to make sure she can look back on your time together with pride and that you can too.

Loving making for woman

Women adores the intimacy the delight of being touched, the loving word, the glow of passion and the security being held. She thrills in the pleasure you take in her, too and in being joined with you physically as he feels herself to be spiritually.

Ont the other hand, if or when she gets fed up, sad or resentful about inability to reach orgasm, you will only know about ti if she trusts you enough to tell. If that occurs, she is paying you the great compliment of her confidence. Return that compliment and do not think in terms of failure, hers or yours. See her orgasm as a bonus to work toward together with loving patient.

Lovemaking for a woman involves heart, mind and body. During her climax she does not ejaculate the way man do. Instead, it's as though the elements of excitement remain glowing within other and she comes down slowly.

Woman and orgasm

The trick to understanding our partner when it comes to orgasms, as in all matters pertaining to sex, is never to forget that she is like all other women only insofar as you are like other men. In important ways, therefore she is unique.

The mind is the primary sex organ, so when making love, try to penetrate hers. You may discover she is one of the many women who do not find orgasms essential to her satisfaction. If so, she has a sensation time with you whether she come or not.

Why women fake orgasm?

Men are reputed to have logical brains, right? So obviously you've already noticed that these statistics indicate two things about female sexuality.
1. Whoever she is, she must have faked it on occasion.
2. This indicates that perhaps orgasms don't play quite the same urgent role in her sex life as they do in yours.

If you saw 'When Harry met Sally', you know how brilliantly a woman can fake an orgasm. But more important than how she fakes it is why she fakes it. Well, first of all, there's a genuine kind of release indicating out a climax, similar to the way you can get a charge out of watching your team score a point without racing out onto the field and scoring one yourself. Also, she knows that for you a sex act is incomplete unless it leads to an orgasm, and if she fails to have one, you may think you've failed to give it to her. In other words, she fakes to spare your feelings.

Yes, it has been known for her to fake an orgasm because she's dead tired and knows you won't give up until you think she's had one. Or maybe she feels somehow ashamed of her inability to have one genuinely. Finally, she may pretend because she's afraid that if she doesn't make yo think you're the greatest, you'll leave and find some other girl who does.

What men still don't know about SEX! -Part 2

There is an argument, however, that to do this risks stripping them of their magic. As a general rule, men find depictions of sexual acts arousing and women get off on words. So when you two get to that lovely point of trust where fantasies can be exchanged remember that a few spicy suggestions whispered into her ear will add to her excitement.

You're also not the only ones to masturbate. most women do it, even when their sex lives are going great. women tend to masturbate to scenarios of their own invention, while you guys prefer to use something material, generally porn videos or magazines. but unless your partner likes porn too, and can share it with you, be careful about keeping it around. Chances are, if she comes across it in your closet or under the bed, she will feel extremely threatened and take it as evidence that she's not enough for you. After all, when she masturbates especially if yours is a passionate, new relationship - the image she probably has in mind is of you.

Also, there's always the likelihood that she is insecure about her desirability and obsessed by what she imagines to be her physical defects- those little blemished and imperfection so that are simply airbrushed out in your videos and magazines. And finally, whenever she thinks, she may not emotionally accept the ability you men have to separate sex from romantic love in a manner not many women share.

What men still don't know about SEX! -Part 1

When it comes to sex, men are definitely improving. After all, in grandpa's day, the average man never dreamed a woman could enjoy making love and the average woman never dreamed she should.

Today, of course, both sexes do, because pleasure shared is pleasure doubled and it's still further increased for the modern man who knows he's giving as good as he's getting. All a man needs to become a superb lover is some technique, a little knowledge, a bit of imagination and a lot of tender willingness. Most important, the good lover knows there is always more to learn and the great lover is the man who enjoys the lessons!

There is more potential for playfulness in sex than in any other adult activity. But sex is not a competitive sport. Men who run out of their corners at the sound of the bell, flailing and panting as though they have a title to defend are not the lovers women find irresistible.

So keep athleticism in the gym, guys. If you think she's going to be wildly turned on by being twisted into contortions, then you certainly have the wrong idea about inventive lovemaking. You are not the only ones, gentlemen, to fantasies during sex, even when it's with someone you're crazy about. And if your relationship mellows, you may find it exciting to tell each other your fantasies though not necessarily to act them out.

to be continue........

The Chemistry of Sex and Love

The Chemistry of love and sex or sex and love ,is a very old subject. Which one come first huh? Love or sex first Huh? I think in today's modern age, everything must test drive first loh! Well, we have to be open minded and moved with the age as well.

In the Tao of Love, there is a detail study of love and sex in the Red Chamber in ancient China. The Emperor has hundreds of concubines and he also has two special sexologists to advise him. The female sexologist will advise him on the ways and the techniques of sex and love. The male sexologist will advise him on his chi energy during sexual intercourse and how to conserve his chi energy to reserve it for the other waiting concubines. Both sexologists are knowledgeable in the ways of replenishing the sex chi energy. The methods ranged from the invisible to the physical herbal potions and aphrodiasics.

Even in Napoleon Hill's famous book (Think and Grow Rich), there is a section on the power of sex and love. The right use of sex and love will make a genius out of both man and woman. Somehow the aura of the combined energies of both male and female can be channeled into useful creations, provided you know how. In most cases, the potent energy of the male is expended carelessly and in an exhaustive way, draining the potential creative chi energy of the male in an unproductive way. This is because the male has not learn to tame the chi energy at its sexual height.

The modern sexologists are more concerned with erectile dysfunction than about the sexual energy. We will share some of this in the next post.