How to keep your man?

Recently, a local newspaper came out with the headline which read like this, 'Association of women formed to take action against mistresses'. A catchy heading. But as you read on, it is about a group of women complaining to the politician to do something about the women in China who lured their husbands away and causing them to have broken families. An impossible task, I would say. Let us be realistic.

First, the women who lured the husbands are in a foreign country, which has their own set of laws regarding marriages. Secondly, having mistresses is not a crime, neither is it wrong in most countrie's cultures. Also, it is difficult to prove that it is the fault of the other women. So there you are, you don't have a strong case to go on here.

A bit of emotional intelligence would perhaps give you a better edge here. Put yourself in the shoes of the other women. What did they do to attract your husband? Figure, dress, grooming and conversations and of course sex. Now, go through this items one at a time. Figure wise, are you slim, attractive? If you are not, do something about it. There are so many slimming centres around. Why not lavish yourself, on your hubby expenses of course, on these slimming centres. Get your self into shape in a month's time and motivate yourself to get result. Next, get some good grooming from the cosmetic counters. Do a makeover. Learn the skills and tricks of a good makeover. Get a new hairstyle but do one that is befitting your age.

Get some new dresses, classy and sexy. And some high heel shoes to go with it. Have a photo shoot out in a professional studio of the new you.

Next, get into internet and be internet savvy. Get to know some new friends, guys but guard your security.

Now you are ready to start on your hubby. Sent him your new look. Set up a dinner just between you and him. Prepared your topics well but not confronting and plan for a welcome back. Two can play the game of seduction from both sides. If you are all these, even if he choose the other woman, I think you still have a good chance with others as well, I mean to start all over again rather than fighting a hopeless fight. And your husband do not like competition, especially if you are beautiful, sexy and classy and very desirable not only to him but to other men.

I think this action is a better solution to the formation of an association of women against mistresses. The above actions make sense, within your control and achievable and it gives you confidence about yourself.

Think back to the first time when your husband courted you. What really attracted him then? Recreate back those features in you. The mistakes with most mothers is that they forgot to take care of their figure, their skin, their hairdo and romantic plans. Men are men and are attracted to this even when they are fathers or grandfathers as a matter of speaking.

So do those things mothers and don't give all your time to your children. You need to give yourself and your husband some time together in order to keep your man to yourself. If your man is happy, you are happy. When both of you are happy, your family is happy. So the end result is, Happy Family.