Seek sexual fulfilment

Sex is an enjoyable way to improve your self-esteem. Simply having a partner consider your needs important can remind you what a worthwhile, special, lovable person you are. But if you don't have much confidence, you'll probably find it difficult to ensure your sexual needs are being met.

Take a sensual trip around your own body. Start with a place that feels attractive, such as your neck or your arms. Close your eyes an touch it, noticing the differences between muscle, bone and fat. Try various movements, scratch, tickle. Concentrate on letting go of criticism and allow your body to give and receive affection."

Schedule love-making into your life, just like you would an important meeting. Tell your partner what feels good. A non-confrontational way to suggest a change in the routine is to provided your partner an alternative, such as "Instead of kissing my neck I'd like you to whisper loving words."
Ask your partner to bring yo to orgasm if he climaxes before you do.